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Giving Respect To The Men

"I hear women talking about men need to respect women. How often do women talk about respecting men? Just a thought."--Facebook Quote from me!

This is is one of my fabulous facebook quotes. I love the interaction. For years, I have had a desire to write about men, in positive way. I think so many times it we forget just how we treat men. Yes, I am guilty. I have said and done a couple things that were negative against men. However, my over all goal has been all about respecting men for who they are and what they bring to the table.

Being the ONLY girl in my immediate family it has been a challenge. Having like almost a million male cousins has been funny to say the least. I have two boys myself. It by no means makes me an expert but it does give me some incite.

Women, understand that men get a hard lessons in life at an early age.  When they are young they are told not to cry whether it hurts or not.  They are told they have to be strong by the time they start elementary School.  By Middle School they are told they are a punk if they don't have a girlfriend or play sports.  In High School by the age 16 if they have not had sex they are called weak or worse.  By the age of 21 if they haven't had sex with 10 or more women, gotten drunk or high they are not really a man.

During this time men have been exposed to all kinds of things like sex, drugs, abuse, porn, and more.  Not able to truly understand the real ways of life.  People often do things in front of boys that they would not in front of a girl.  Like argue, drink, cuss, fight, and all kinds of things.  Yes, we often say women mature faster than men but we expose men to more things at an earlier age and expect them to process it.  I am not saying me men are slow. Actually, I think men are quite intelligent.  I think they are not very well respected.

We force them to take responsibility sooner and handle difficult situations with out giving them all the tools.  We expect them to just make it work.  It is like saying go build a house without a hammer, nails,  and concrete. Then you expect the best at all times.  Doesn't make much sense.  We make them the man in charge of a single parent home at 12 and ask them to do adult things.  Not really fair.  We capitalize on their strength when things are good but we laugh at them they are weak. 

Yes, men have those weak moments.  Not like women but we treat them as such in those moments.  Instead, we should let them know how much we appreciate them when times are tough.  Fill them with encouragement when life has given them a sucker punch.  Be strong for them when they are not.  Build a man up from the inside, not rip him a part.  Making sure that he can depend on someone else for a change.  In that second, he realizes he doesn't have to carry the weight of the world on his shoulders everyday of his life he can let go of regret and loss with the courage to move on.  He can move on to be the man he was meant to be. The man that God created him to be. 

I dedicate this to all the men in my life.  Hoping they are being respected if not tell those disrespectful people to see me.


Jocelyn said...

Brilliant! I think I may offer my own perspective on this on my blog. Gonna shout out your quote when I do.

Lifewithpurpose said...

Awesome Jocelyn, Just let me know when girl.

Tisha Matthews said...

Well said! Women are so focused on male bashing that they forget to hold themselves accountable for their own actions. If they want a man to respect them. They have to respect them back. If you are with a man who you respect, but he does not return the same treatment; that means he never will. Get rid of him and move onto something better. Do NOT try to change him cause it will not work.

I have a son and as his mom my goal is to raise him completely different from the standard way. I taught him how to be strong, stay true to himself and be respectful.

Lifewithpurpose said...

Thank you Tisha you are so right. I ahve boys as well. I would be so angry if a women mistreated my boys because I teach them to be loving to women and be honrable and some chicks don't get but some do. It is such a rough world for a man. Sometimes we have to stop and think.

Anonymous said...

This is a great post. Sometimes it is tough to remember to show respect to my husband. It's not that I don't respect him, it's just that I need to remember to SHOW him that I do.

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